Our thoughts and ideas about what is "good" or "bad" depend on what our society and/or environment teaches us. These thoughts and ideas form our judgements, and so, we are in this modern society, constantly judging ourselves and others unconsciously. These judgements cause us to feel emotions that we do not necessarily need to feel, because our judgements are skewed by what our society/environment has shown us is "good" or "bad." For this reason, one of the first steps in developing a deeper connection with our intuition or psychic selves, is to rehabituate our thinking. We learn how to become more aware of our thoughts, words and actions/interactions, without judging them as "good" or "bad." This requires some commitment on our parts to "stay aware" of what is going on in our minds. But if we learn how to observe what's going on in our minds, we can stop the cycle of negative emotions and reactions, and learn to feel more joyful about just being as we are.
Eckhart Tolle had a wonderful example in his book, The Power of Now. He suggested using driving a car in traffic as a place to practice being more present (if you are a road-rager, it may NOT be the best place to start). The way I understood his suggestion, and applied it, is that we should pay attention to our thoughts and emotions when we are driving. If we are late, we might feel frantic and anxious about that - we might be think,"I'm always late! Why can't I be more organized!"; or maybe a car just cuts us off, and we might think, "How dare you cut me off! You think you are better than me?" both of these mind patterns will likely cause us to feel feel anxious or angry. As a result, we might begin acting more aggressively on the than we otherwise are. We may drive more carelessly, or cut someone else off - leading to an accident. So the next step is that we should pay attention to how those thoughts are affecting our emotions and body.
We should ask ourselves, "Where, in my body, am I feeling the emotions? Is it in your stomach, your chest, throat, jaw, eyes - or do you feel pressure in your head? Pay attention to where in your body you are feeling this. What happens when we do this, is that we begin to notice that the initial feeling that caused the discomfort in our bodies, disappates, or disolves. When that happens, we can almost laugh at ourselves for generating the thoughts, that caused the emotions, that caused the discomfort. We connect to our consciousness, our very being!
We have to stick with it - keep practicing and applying these ideas - it might only help a little the first few times we do it - but over time, we will see that it will change the way we interact with others (and other cars!!!!). Once we have the method down, we can begin applying it to other situations.